When you are first introduced to BDSM game, you may be thrilled or nervous or even uneasy.  

 

“Will my partner hurt me?”,  “What if my partner does something deadly to me"….

 

In fact, as you learn more about BDSM, you will find BDSM can be done safely. BDSM is not dangerous in most cases (except for extreme BDSM games) , but if you lack relevant knowledge and refuse to do some research and follow the BDSM's rules, you're likely to hurt yourself or your partner.

 

Therefore, it is important for you and your partner to learn a few safety guidelines before starting a BDSM game!

 

Rule No. 1 | Knowing the SSC" principles

SSC Principles refer to “Safe, Sane, and Consensual”, which are the basic principles of BDSM games and the philosophy of BDSM players

safe: attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health.

sane: activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible frame of mind.

consensual: all activities should involve the full consent of all parties involved.

 

Rule No. 2 | Use a safety word

Safety word is a way of communication in BDSM games, which is one of the crucial ways to improve the safety of BDSM games. The safety word is usually a key word agreed upon between sadist and masochist. When masochist really thinks he or she couldn't stand it any more, the masochist should say the safety word to the sadist , and sadist must stop and change the game to a safer way of playing.

A safety word can be any word you want. Many BDSM players use “Green”, “Yellow”, and “Red” as their safety words. “Green” means "continue," yellow means "Proceed but with caution," and red means "stop." As a sadist, you need to follow safety rules to maintain your partner's trust. As a masochist you should also be wary of those who do not respect your own safety.

 

Rule No. 3 | Communicate openly and honestly

Before BDSM games, it's important to be honest with your partner about your needs and your bottom line. In fact, not just before the intense BDSM games, but even before daily sex, you should be honest with yourself and share your needs, thoughts and feelings to your partner. This is also one of the important ways to complete high-quality sex.

 

Rule No. 4 | Do not over drink or do drugs before BDSM games

There are few risks involved If you drink a little alcohol before BDSM games. But if you over drink, take some psychotropic substances, or ever worse, do drugs before BDSM games, the alcohol or drugs can affect your consciousness, reduce your reactivity, and make it difficult for you to response and realize that what you're doing is hurtful or deadly to your partner. So remember, no alcohol or drugs before the game!

 

Rule No. 5 | Know how to use tools safely

There are many BDSM tools or toys on the market. The most common items include whips, handcuffs, gags, hoods, collars, needles, knives, candles, dungeons sex furniture, and more. You don't have to know all of the BDSM tools or toys, but you should know how to use and maintain them before you buy and use them. It is also best to practice before using, for example, practice using a whip to improve the accuracy of aiming and avoid hurting your partner's organs. There are many ways to learn how to use BDSM tools on the internet. Don't be lazy, study more, or talk more with experienced players. This is another important way to play BDSM games safely.

 

Rule No. 6 | Always have contingency plans in place

Being prepared for an emergency is a basic requirement of BDSM, which means:

  • Having a phone within reach to call 911
  • Having a pair of scissors or bolt cutters for quick release
  • Stay hydrated
  • For toys with locks, make sure you have at least two keys
  • Having a first aid kit for immediate treatment of bruises and inflamed skin
  • If candles or flames are used, prepare a fire extinguisher in advance

 

There are many specific risks in BDSM games, such as how to deal with the risk of choking games. So before you engage in BDSM games, make sure that you have learned and researched the risks of any BDSM games you are interested in, so as how to deal with any risks